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Dating advice for women
Dating advice is all the more necessary for women, because women are more sentimental and emotional than men. So, going out with a man should be a learning process for ladies. I’m not a killjoy out to rob you of the pleasure in your dates, but just want dating to be a win-win situation for you.
There is a lot you can learn about a man’s character when you go out with him. How he behaves with the valet in the car park or the waiter in a restaurant will tell you a lot about him. It is how we react when we are in a position of power that reveals a lot about ourselves. And these are real life situations to test character.
I hate to say this, being a man; but with my hand on my heart I can tell you that, men like to have an affair on the sly. They even get a kick out of it. Men are bigamous by nature and the lure of the forbidden apple is too much to resist. Well, there is no reason to be overly suspicious but the fact is that the guy who seems the world to you may also be two-timing you. If he is, he will be hesitant to take you out and won’t like to be seen with you in public. He will also not introduce you to his friends and family.
Also does he bring you gifts and flowers sometimes? Does he show his concern and helps you when you are in a spot of bother? Such acts may seem inconsequential and trivial but they also say a lot for ‘real’ love. Or is he just interested in cuddling up to you?
If you are unattached as yet, a good place to find a boyfriend is at the races, since all kinds of guys go there. Go along with some girl friend to the beach. Try a new hairstyle or switch over to more trendy clothes.
You could also find love online. Of course it has its inherent risks, but no cause for undue alarm. Follow a few rules and you could find your dream lover on the internet. We live in a world that is increasingly shrinking in size and Cupid may have gone ‘hi-tech’ and taken it upon himself to shoot his arrows through optic cables passing deep under the oceans. Resort to this only if you have very liberated views of life and are prepared to meet a man from a faraway country, not to mention a totally different culture and another race. If you are reading this you are prepared for it in a way and race shouldn’t be an issue either. I would advise you to stay away from the ‘free’ sites though. The fact that it is free makes it the perfect hunting ground for scamsters and pranksters.
They usually do not post photographs on their profiles. They also will not divulge telephone numbers and addresses. They may ask you for money on some pretext or the other or may ask for your bank account number or credit card number. Never disclose any of these. Also do not reveal your true name or identity very soon. Allow a few weeks and perhaps a couple of months to pass before you interchange information of an intimate and confidential nature. Then, you may take the plunge and go visit him in his country or better still, invite him to visit you in your country. That way you can be sure that he is serious about you. The internet also has sites offering dating advice for women.
There are also sites for Speed Dating and Blind Dating but I would advise you to skip these if you are trying to find ‘true love’. These are alright for casual acquaintances but not if you are searching a life partner or a long term relationship.
All said and done, use your discretion as the internet is yet unfamiliar territory and there can be no hard and fast rules. Well, for that matter love too is blind, but don’t go into a relationship, ‘eyes wide shut’.