More About Love
Advice for teenage Dating
OK, so you have just turned thirteen/fourteen and the little girl in ponytails next door suddenly seems very pretty. You like to go to her house on the slightest pretext and want to meet her and talk to her. If she is of your age, she too may find your new found interest very exciting. Her face brightens up, there is a smile on her face and you can see it in her eyes too. You feel a thrill going through your body when you talk to her; while at the same time have an awkward feeling of shyness. You remember all those childhood stories of princes and princesses and fancy yourself to be one of them. Well if this sounds very true, then you need not think I have caught you stealing or something. What you feel, is very natural at your age. You are falling in love.
Indeed, love is the noblest sentiment that can arise in the human breast. God intended it that way. Your mum and dad also love each other and so do all the other mums and dads the world over. It is all part of God’s divine plan of creation. The book of Genesis, the very first book of the Bible tells us that. God had at first created Adam, the first man and then created Eve to be his companion. God felt that Adam should not be alone and should have a companion. He needed someone to talk to and spend time with. You can see your mum and dad do much the same. Probably your dad comes home from work and narrates about the day’s events to your mum. You may all go out together often and have a good time. Imagine what life would be if you were all alone.
As you are quite young there is still much time before you too can think of starting a family. You may not have grown to your full height and stature as yet and the biological clock says you have to bid your time. But you can start interacting with girls and developing a more meaningful relationship with them. You need not go out of your way to meet girls. It won’t be hard to strike a friendship with the girls in your class and neighborhood. It would also be very convenient since you will have a lot in common. You already may have heard of this thing called ‘dating’. Well, it really is when two people, a boy and girl go out and spend time together. Teenage dating can be a wonderful experience.
This is the first time you are deliberately spending time together with a girl and it is a great opportunity to learn about girls’ behavior. Try understanding what they like and dislike and how they react to different situations. Also don’t try and kiss her on your first date. You will also find out quite painfully, that not all the pretty girls are as nice as well.
The worst thing that could happen to you is a break-up. At your age it can be a shattering experience. I’ve known guys who have gone through it in high school and college and have ruined their careers as a result of it. Separation from someone you have loved and hankered after can be painful, but it need not be traumatic. In the first place, in the event of a break-up, the world won’t come crashing down, you won’t be rejected by friends and you can start all over again. You are young and starting afresh will not be so difficult. You are not middle-aged or in your late thirties to be precariously placed to find love and romance. So, go ahead and date that long-legged girl you always liked and who knows; she may be your wife some day.